A lot of people have visited my blog, wondering why I haven’t posted any story about the ongoing divorce scandal involving Pastors Chris and Anita Oyakhilome…the founding pastors of Christ Embassy Church.
I’ve been following the news closely, from when Pastor Chris was accused of adultery and negligence as grounds for his wife seeking a divorce to the exclusive story by PREMIUM TIMES claiming that Pastor Anita vowed never to rescind on her decision to file for a divorce.
I purposely refrained from reporting this story and joining other media sites to make a sensation out of it because as a blogger, I’m first a child of Light and my perspective on issues like these must reflect this fact. It is not right to make a sensation out of marital problems that show threats of a divorce because marriage is SACRED and that’s the same reason I didn’t sensationalize the Beyonce and Jay Z divorce drama.
Before I drop my thoughts on the Oyakhilome saga, let me share with you a little about myself so you can better understand the point of my analysis.
My marriage once suffered a temporary crisis. It led to a four-year separation which had me returning to my old bedroom in my parents house. I was heavily depressed and angry and rightly so. My marriage didn’t fail because I was a bad wife or mother. If anything, I was a model example of a virtuous woman. I was 100% faithful to the marriage. I was a good cook, a good homemaker and a caring mother to my children. I even gave up two lucrative jobs in the oil sector and banking industry because it wasn’t convenient for my family to have me taking an out-of-town job. For everyday, I woke up in my old bedroom, I searched my heart to find out what I did wrong…what I could have done differently but I found nothing strong enough to nail me to the cross of pain I was carrying.
The worst part of this trial are the side talks…from people who claim they ‘care’. They lack the courage to ask you straight up what’s going on but go on to spread lies and falsehood about you. These people hide under ‘friends’ and ‘Christian brethren’, when all the while, the true friends and brethren are actually fasting, praying and doing spiritual warfare on your behalf.
It wasn’t until the four dark years were over, that I unearthed the moral of my trial. I was my church women’s leader at the time. I was a fire burning for the Lord. The wisdom I used in counseling women who had various marital issues couldn’t have come from my tiny head. It was exceptional. Women were every week during our meetings pouring in testimonies of how their marriages were healed. Couples were falling in love all over again. Women were encouraged to pray with results. New exciting programs were being designed for the fellowship. The anointing of the Holy Ghost was flowing and we all know the devil hates that.
Satan knew that if he struck the head, others in the fold would lose faith and almost all the time, he strikes you with something you hold dearest to your heart…something that would distract you from serving God and saving souls. Brethren, do not be deceived. Satan is real and determined to destroy. The good news is, he only has as much power as you give to him.
A week before the Oyakhilome scandal blew open, my husband and I were watching a video of him talking about marriage. To say we were blessed by watching is an understatement. We learnt so much that my husband told me to save the video so we could refer to it from time to time. Do you think such life-changing sermons makes Satan happy? Do you think Satan will slack in attacking the Oyakhilome marriage, knowing that by doing so those sermons may stop or worse still, no one would listen and believe?
It is very disheartening to read bloggers and other media reporting this story like they were living right in the Oyakhilome’s bedroom. What gives us the right to report and conclude something as sacred and sensitive as someone’s marriage, without having 100% facts?
When a marriage is under attack, the best thing to do is PRAY. Do not make a sensation out of it. Do not tear your fellow believer down at the moment when he/she is weakest. This is a trick to distract Christendom while the devil moves in on us stronger. If you saw a man oppressing your brother, you fight. So why is it so difficult to understand this simple logic?…that we wrestle not against flesh and blood?
My own trial has taught me to put on my full armor and fight for my own, whenever I read about stories like these. I pray for the Oyakhilomes every morning during my devotion. If a night warfare is necessary, I shall do it until the forces of hell are pushed back to where they belong…the bottomless pit.
Who’s with me?