The Divorce Mess Of Pastors Chris & Anita Oyakhilome…My Deevanalysis

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OYAKHILOMEA lot of people have visited my blog, wondering why I haven’t posted any story about the ongoing divorce scandal involving Pastors Chris and Anita Oyakhilome…the founding pastors of Christ Embassy Church.

I’ve been following the news closely, from when Pastor Chris was accused of adultery and negligence as grounds for his wife seeking a divorce to the exclusive story by PREMIUM TIMES claiming that Pastor Anita vowed never to rescind on her decision to file for a divorce.

I purposely refrained from reporting this story and joining other media sites to make a sensation out of it because as a blogger, I’m first a child of Light and my perspective on issues like these must reflect this fact. It is not right to make a sensation out of marital problems that show threats of a divorce because marriage is SACRED and that’s the same reason I didn’t sensationalize the Beyonce and Jay Z divorce drama.

Before I drop my thoughts on the Oyakhilome saga, let me share with you a little about myself so you can better understand the point of my analysis.

My marriage once suffered a temporary crisis. It led to a four-year separation which had me returning to my old bedroom in my parents house. I was heavily depressed and angry and rightly so. My marriage didn’t fail because I was a bad wife or mother. If anything, I was a model example of a virtuous woman. I was 100% faithful to the marriage. I was a good cook, a good homemaker and a caring mother to my children. I even gave up two lucrative jobs in the oil sector and banking industry because it wasn’t convenient for my family to have me taking an out-of-town job. For everyday, I woke up in my old bedroom, I searched my heart to find out what I did wrong…what I could have done differently but I found nothing strong enough to nail me to the cross of pain I was carrying.

The worst part of this trial are the side talks…from people who claim they ‘care’. They lack the courage to ask you straight up what’s going on but go on to spread lies and falsehood about you. These people hide under ‘friends’ and ‘Christian brethren’, when all the while, the true friends and brethren are actually fasting, praying and doing spiritual warfare on your behalf.

It wasn’t until the four dark years were over, that I unearthed the moral of my trial. I was my church women’s leader at the time. I was a fire burning for the Lord. The wisdom I used in counseling women who had various marital issues couldn’t have come from my tiny head. It was exceptional. Women were every week during our meetings pouring in testimonies of how their marriages were healed. Couples were falling in love all over again. Women were encouraged to pray with results. New exciting programs were being designed for the fellowship. The anointing of the Holy Ghost was flowing and we all know the devil hates that.

Satan knew that if he struck the head, others in the fold would lose faith and almost all the time, he strikes you with something you hold dearest to your heart…something that would distract you from serving God and saving souls. Brethren, do not be deceived. Satan is real and determined to destroy. The good news is, he only has as much power as you give to him.

A week before the Oyakhilome scandal blew open, my husband and I were watching a video of him talking about marriage. To say we were blessed by watching is an understatement. We learnt so much that my husband told me to save the video so we could refer to it from time to time. Do you think such life-changing sermons makes Satan happy? Do you think Satan will slack in attacking the Oyakhilome marriage, knowing that by doing so those sermons may stop or worse still, no one would listen and believe?

It is very disheartening to read bloggers and other media reporting this story like they were living right in the Oyakhilome’s bedroom. What gives us the right to report and conclude something as sacred and sensitive as someone’s marriage, without having 100% facts?

When a marriage is under attack, the best thing to do is PRAY. Do not make a sensation out of it. Do not tear your fellow believer down at the moment when he/she is weakest. This is a trick to distract Christendom while the devil moves in on us stronger. If you saw a man oppressing your brother, you fight. So why is it so difficult to understand this simple logic?…that we wrestle not against flesh and blood?

My own trial has taught me to put on my full armor and fight for my own, whenever I read about stories like these. I pray for the Oyakhilomes every morning during my devotion. If a night warfare is necessary, I shall do it until the forces of hell are pushed back to where they belong…the bottomless pit.

Who’s with me?

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138 thoughts on “The Divorce Mess Of Pastors Chris & Anita Oyakhilome…My Deevanalysis”

  1. Emem says:

    Am very much with you. There is no point to be judgemental but to uphold them in prayer.

  2. Chineze says:

    Where is the like button???? God bless you for this different/ healthy point of view on this matter.

  3. Biggies says:

    am so with you, thanks for your thought

  4. Ginaye says:

    Sis I’m with you on this and been praying too. Finally a sensible take on the media frenzy. I know that this too has come to pass for sure “all things come together for good…”

  5. John lorlumun Agber says:

    I am perfectly with you my dear sister. My Sincere prayers for them and all families in distress.

  6. j.ulori says:

    Good piece but if u give the devil opportunity he bites u.there must always be an edge that has broken that Satan took advantage off.am not a fan of long distance marriage period.

    1. Chuks says:

      It’s unfortunate that many of us Christians these days have so so watered down the pristine high moral standards of Christianity. Do we still remember that under the unction of the Holy Spirit Apostle Paul enjoined that sexual sins should not be tolerated in the Church. In blatant disobedience to this injunction, the extreme permissiveness of the Jezebellic spirit that lures men into sexual sins is permitted to operate freely in this couple’s congregations.

      1. Dear Chuks, are you speaking from experience ? If not how come you are so sure of the lie you spat out here?

  7. ngo says:

    Abeg! stop deceiving yourself your so called ‘pastor Chris’ is a fraud! ALL ADULTERERS MUST ROT IN HELL!!!!!

    1. thinkingman says:

      And you NGO are a saint abeg either you belt up or hug transformer !!!

    2. Faith says:

      @ Ngo
      And so will u judge… well, I’m sure u already know ur lot as a judge seeing as u know the scriptures so well!

    3. jenny says:

      Ngo Who made you the judge? The bible said judgement is of the lord. If you don’t know what to say you better not comment. Did pastor chris steal from you? So why call him a fraudster? U better watch what u say before the rot of God will fall upon u.

    4. Anita Duado says:

      You are very silly,I condemn your tongue,from this day forth your tongue is condemned in Jesus name,MARK MY WORDS

      1. ify says:

        Anita Duardo,what authority do you have to condemn any man’s tongue.And in Jesus name at that.
        Being a model christian as you are,u should know better than to do that.
        “If any man has no sin let him be the first to cast a stone”
        My dear,that is christ.

      2. scanty says:

        who are u to condem someones tongue?

    5. macpherson says:

      Well i think you’re not married or you’re a polygamous bachelor we are talking about marriage issue people like you sleep with different women and get divorced like 5 times ending up with no wife or die miserable….

    6. geepee says:

      Ngo I pity you…you are judging a man God is using to change the world…Secondly were you in the scene where he committed adultery or did he stole your money that you call him fraudster…so shut your trap nobody knows you sef you can run your mouth it makes no difference. ..lol

    7. ezeki says:

      Am prayer for you family members that God will help you in it

  8. Favoured says:

    madam, u have lectured a lots of pple here. i hope they wud learn. tanx a bunch

  9. kenneth egboh says:

    Ngo,Is adultry not with proof? Did you see adulrty in divorce papers or did u write yours? Who made you a Judge? How many souls have you won for christ? Look inside you b4 you speak. Pray for your pastor and d churc if you are a christian. Ken

  10. Thank u madam.we know dat d devils is d father of lies, so we ar not ignorant like he think.I hv a father in PST Chris, and nothing can change dat.

  11. thinkingman says:

    God bless you madam am tired of reading the thrash that comes out of the media ….I believe in Rev. Chris He’s a man of God and being a man of God means Satan hates u real good , let’s stop killing our own and start praying for them if you can’t pray then shut yoiur mouth or better hug transformer !!!

  12. Donald says:

    Its only a fool that concludes without knowing or having any facts.
    NGO, have you met Pst. Chris before? Have you met the wife before?
    If you are not married, pray hard bcos God will surely remind you of this your factless judgemental post. If you are married, its a matter of time. Get ready.
    You will answer God, keep it up.

  13. Shaka says:

    This writing represent my position on the matter. More grace and wisdom to the writer.

  14. MCbrightboe says:

    This is true…we should pray rather than condemn…God bless u.

    1. iBLACK says:

      What God has joined together, let no principality and power put asunder. In fact, pastor Chris and pastor Anita are ONE in christ Jesus. Amen

  15. Austin says:

    This too shall pass like the ones that have gone before it. Nice piece. If you can’t pray for them, Keep quiet.

  16. uche says:

    I am with u 100% fulltime , Realtime don’t judge so that u won’t be judged.

    1. lala says:

      we always hide under that bible verse that says do not judge so that you will not be judged. ppl tend to be one sided on this matter. have pastor chris accepted or denied the aligation. ppl tend to blame anita. if you are not married pls do not say a word in this case. he is always asking his members to pray for the wife. marriage is a two party traffic. a third person no matter level of spirituality is a third party and therefor not welcomed in the case. therefore let us pray for both (chris and anita) and let the will of GOD come to pass in their lives. i rest my case.

  17. diuto says:

    Thank you and God bless you. I’m with you, they are my ‘parents’ and it breaks my heart.

  18. west says:

    THIs D PRobLEM We HavE In ChRisTiandom,not knowing how to protect or projects our religion not to talk our anointed ones.where will on earth will ,U see a Muslim come out openly to judge or even air views concerning their spiritual head on a matter.this is so because of the uniqueness and simplcity of the bible and its varibles.lets be wise and stop distroying our religion with our own our words and actions.

    1. Darlington says:

      100 percent with you on this sister, God bless u real good, and to Ngo, I pray God will forgive u coz u really need it for judging and condenming a man of God, who are u to do that?.

  19. Ama says:

    I had a strong urge about 2wks ago or less to write an article exactly with this content… I started asking.. How would I do it… Which blogger wud I send my article to. Thanks alot for this. God bless you. Would definitely share. Everywhere I can.

  20. Nelly says:

    It only takes a man/woman of the spirit to talk this way! God bless u.

  21. Emeka says:

    First of all, this blogger doesn’t have a view on this matter. So it’s kinda hard to respond to a viewless blog. Ngo, at least has a view and y’all wanna kill her for having an opinion. I have read different views on this issue from diverse points, ranging from an atheist to christian leaders but I personally agree with one Catholic priest’s piece due to his balanced views. I would have supported praying for the couple if I had not heard demeaning preachings and utterances of Pastor Chris lately concerning this. He is just pulpit bullying his wife like Okotie. He told the world that his wife is immature. What an insult on womanhood and Christendom. And on himself. You married an immature Christian? You couldn’t help her grow for two decades? Yet you ordained her a pastor? Made her the vice president of mighty Christ Embassy? Posted her to head a branch in Europe? Co-author Rhapsody of Realities with her? Come on, Pastor. We all watched Benny Hinn ask for prayers during his marital wahala. He, unlike Oyakhilome, never said one word against his wife, believing God to turn situations around. And did God? Pastor Chris simply seems to be playing out a long ago script to end his marriage. He should do anything but bully his wife from the pulpit and expect us, gullible christians,to believe all that. Or is religion truly the opium of the masses?

    1. Peace says:

      Emeka, it’s clear you’re so self-absorbed in your opinion to understand or recognize a view when you see one. My analysis was written so clearly that even a baby who can read would understand. I stated in my VIEW that when things like these happen, the best thing to do is pray for wisdom for both parties and not take sides. I used my personal experience to throw more light on the situation, BECAUSE I’m not privy to what led to the breakdown of the Oyakhilomes relationship, but I’m privy to mine and so can confidently talk about mine and use it to throw more light on the situation.

      You clearly have condemned Pastor Chris by your response. I’m glad the wise people here know that Pastor Chris is first, a human before a man of God. Just like Moses, Samson, David and all the great men of God, he won’t be the first or last to make a mistake. That’s why I’m laying emphasis on being warfare allies of this couple in their dark moments.

      You are entitled to your opinion and I respect that, so do not subtly insult mine when it’s so obvious that the intention of this whole write-up was to express my views which you’ve so blindly refused to see. But then again, my views are mainly designed for the intelligent.

      1. Dawn says:

        Hi, I’m not even going to say anything concerning the divorce cos I’ve got my own problems. My only comment here is on Peace’s (the bloggers) response to her reader. Insulting your readers even subtly is a big no no, even if they did insult you. When you write you open yourself up to criticism and comments that will not thrill you. If you can’t handle that, then you should rethink airing your views.

        1. Peace says:

          Hi Dawn, please scroll up to the Facebook comment thread above, check for Funmi Ezemandu’s comment. It opposed my views, but I commended her choice to be different and even appreciated it because she drew a valid point from an intelligent perspective. If you scroll down a bit, you’ll see another commenter who called me a “hypocritical b*tch.” That, and even Ngo, who told me to “stop deceiving myself” drew no response from me even when they were direct insults.

          I’m pointing this out to address this issue of insulting my readers or being “immature” for the last time. Bear it in mind that most people were attracted to read this story because they were drawn by the story title, thinking they were in for another Pastor Chris bashing but got disappointed.

          There was just something about Emeka’s opening comment that didn’t sit right with me. That doesn’t mean I didn’t take into consideration what he said.

          I’m sorry you feel that way about me Dawn, but I can’t be like other bloggers. I appreciate interaction and debates because from there, great minds rub together and everyone (including myself) goes home with something of value. I think this blog would have been so boring if we didn’t have heated arguments here, once in a while.

          Thanks for visiting my blog, Dawn.

        2. Ngozi says:

          I so agree with you

      2. Ada says:

        What ever this is about need to stop. The world has bigger problems than a man cheating on his wife and bullying her at the alter. People are dying of Ebola, and we need to be praying for them. Not for some one who knew what he was doing (if you cheat on your wife, at least apologize not bullying her with authority of a pastor) .Pastor Chris mess is not as important as people fears regarding Ebola virus. Let us pray for the poor among us and not those who got so rich and lost their sense. It human to fall. If you fall, ask for forgiveness and rise. Accept responsibility for your poor judgment and ask for forgiveness. Don’t bully or trash talk the person you offended so much. I have suffered many betrayal in life from friends and family. However, my husband is my rock and refuge in these difficult time. If he should betray me or my trust by sleeping with another woman, I will need a lot of help to ever be normal again. So let us leave this drama of a cheating bullying husband and think of the poor and the sick and the threats of Ebola to poor Nigerian and the world.

      3. Ngozi says:

        This is such an unchristian response ‘woman of God’

    2. Emeka, you are actually entitled to your opinion. But when that opinion is very wrong, you have to be humble enough to rescind it.

      Pastor Chris has in none of his messages demeaned Rev Anita. He has never done that. In fact he said that despite what’s going one he cannot even get angry at his wife, even if he wanted to. He said he feared the Lord too much to let the Lord look into him and find anger. Unless, we are having serious problem understanding English language, these are not the words of a man that thinks from the realms of this world.

      And if you actually listened to that message on the 7th of this month, you would have noted that he didn’t talk against his wife. He said people should not raise their expectations to the point of asking why Rev Anita did this or that. He didn’t do wrong by asking us to pray for her. And by saying that a Man of God’s wife does not automatically become a Woman of God is not an insult. And as a Christian, the first thing you should have done was study about the phrase MAN OF GOD.

      My advice has always been, never judge a man until you get to hear the man.
      I read the Catholic Priest’s views and all I could do was laugh. When you don’t know a man you call him ‘di anyi’.

      Instead of calling Pastor Chris ‘di anyi’ why not get to know the Man! I have KNOWN him for over 14 years. And I thank God he is my Pastor. A sheep can PICK the voice of its shepherd; the voice of a hire it will not follow. This is a blessing.

      God bless you.

      1. lala says:

        i am not in agreement with your very last comment that says having known a man for 14 years is enough reason to justify that one is a saint. i knew someone for ten years and signed as a referee to someone for account opening. the next two years the person joined another organization and commited fraud. it is only God that vindicated me on the matter. pple of this age live a camelonic life.

        1. Lala, I am actually talking about my Man of God! In these 14+years, I have known him by revelation. And I can tell you that everything that has been said about him is 100% inconsistent with his character.

          But then, you are not in my shoes, so I can understand that.
          The person you signed for may have disappointed you, but that’s not to say it was Pastor Chris who disappointed you.

          Cheers.

    3. love says:

      Bro, you just read my thoughts. How does pulpit bashing your wife amount to asking for prayers?

      1. This is the reason why people fail examinations: they assume they already understand only to be disappointed when the results come out.

        You were not in those meetings. I was! And he never ‘pulpit – bashed’ his wife.

    4. Da kross says:

      First let me acknowledge here that I’m not a believer. I read through most of the responses to your sermon with the conviction that religion blind people. It’s sometimes fascinate me to see how religious always find excuse for the inconsistencies in the religion. I was going to write about my disagreement with your sermon (opinionless as Emeka pointed out) but reading through Emaka’s piece, I concluded it’s not necessary.
      Peace, u claimed you don’t have fact about the matter yet you mentioned the subject of Oyakhilome’s marriage and simply proceeded to delivering sermon while you deliberately avoided the argument of the subject matter which is: adultery and right to divorce. If the pastor committed adultery let him acknowledge and apologise to the church then the church can forgive and pray for him. If he did not commit it, let him publicly deny it.
      Secondly I see the way u attacked Emeka; if you can stand differing opinion, why start a blog.

      Lastly I will conclude. Religion only ensnare and blind people.

      1. Peace says:

        Da Kross, I did not attack Emeka. If you read my response properly, you’d see where I said I respected his own opinion even though it differs from my opinion and I’d expect him to respect mine as well. Rather, he subtly insulted my opinion by saying the blogpost was opinionless in the first place. Let me ask you this, if you’re not a believer, what are you even doing commenting on this story? You just shot yourself in the foot by saying that, because I wouldn’t waste my time reasoning with you. You can NEVER understand where I’m coming from. It’s like a carpenter arguing medicine with a team of Medical Consultants…pointless.

        Having said that, you used the word “IF” “the pastor committed adultery…”; meaning you’re not even certain. The pastor has said he did not commit adultery. Why not take on the detective project of going to investigate and dig up evidence about this so called adultery accusation, if it bothers you so much?

        Lastly, you are very free to drop a differing opinion on my blog, so long as you do it constructively. I’ll totally respect that. After all, we are all here to rub minds in order to forge a way forward. BUT if you attack my opinion FOR NO REASON and I’m in the mood to respond, I sure will because guess what? It’s my blog and I pay well every year to keep this domain running.

        Thanks, for visiting, Da Kross.

        1. Da kross says:

          Dear madam, you cannot be a judge in your own case. i read your piece and in my opinion, you attacked Emeka but thats beside the point; Emeka is not my brother.

          You talked about my not being a believer. I dont think i have to be a believer to have an opinion on a issue thats in public domain. I might not understand where you’re coming from or where you’re going but unlike you, i will always state my opinion and position on any issue at any given time without ambiguity regardless of wether a pastor is involved or convict is involved. (…ofcourse my opinion is subject to debate)

          I am not any more interested in the Oyakhilomes than i am in other families around the world and im glad you noted the word i used ‘IF’ meaning; I can not say for fact wether he did commit adultery or not but I suggested what i think should be done in both instances ( IF and IF NOT). I repeat, Oyakhilome is just another human being on earth so im not interested in investigating his issue, we rely on people like you to do that.
          Now that you have informed me that the pastor said he did not commit adultery, why dont the church ask the wife to explain herself? or is the church gonna let her accuse an innocent man and get away with it?

          Like you, I also do not like to waste my time discussing with weak mind but I am always open to discuss with people who will constructively argue their positions at the same time, listen through other people’s view without sentiment.

          thanks for responding, I wish you well with your blog.

          1. Peace says:

            Hi Da Kross, now this is a much better response from you! Differing opinion yes, but very intelligent perspective. Now who can fault this?

            Pardon the ambiguity of the analysis, it was very intentional. If you were following media reports like I did, you’ll understand my decision not to join the bandwagon. It’s like cooking up a story all to later find out that your ‘facts’ were inaccurate. That I can’t be a part of. I can only say things I’m sure of.

            I actually wrote my analysis after Pastor Chris’ response on the issue…see link: http://peacebenwilliams.com/pastor-chris-oyakhilome-responds-at-last-to-his-divorce-mess-watch-the-video/

            Best wishes,
            PBW

          2. Da Kross says:

            Hello Peace. I’m sorry I have to drop a message for you here. I couldn’t get any link to your private message. I wanted to ask what you think of the Oscar Pistorious trial. perhaps you can blog about that.

          3. Peace says:

            Hello Da Kross, my email is deeva@peacebenwilliams.com or you can send a message to my Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/PeaceBenWilliams Thank you.

    5. tina says:

      Emeka,I share your views on the aspect of Pastor Chris running his wife down also. Grossly unfair to call childish,a woman who has stood by you and grown such a strong ministry for over a decade.But then that too is a sign of weakness on his part as a man.So yes,as much he says we should be praying for his wife, we should pray for him also.he needs it much more than he knows,that ignorance also is what makes him a man as much as he is a pastor.May God help the situation.@Peace Ben Williams, masterpiece write up.Opens up our minds to view the entire situation from a spiritual point of view,which we should as Christians.

    6. koko says:

      Emeka or whatever u call Urself, get Ur facts right!!!

    7. Gosh! says:

      @Emeka thanks for the comparism between Pastor Benny Hinn and Pastor Chris Oyakhilome. Pastor Benny Hinn’s marriage was restored because he really desired it. I agree with you totally Pastor Chris must not embarrass or disgrace his wife in public. I Pray for Pastor Chris that God heals and restores (only if he truly desires) his marriage for HIS Glory to shame the lying devil. A wise old man once told me during my marriage when there’s minor problems in the home the woman is mostly blamed but if the marriage breaks the man takes ALL THE BLAME!
      Because it is perceived he coudn’t hold it together. There’s always a way and we must ask God to reveal it.

      @Deevanalysis keep the faith and the good work committed to you by GOD. He is your shield and buckle your exceeding great reward. Well done! I Love your piece, its a testimony to your work and faith in God. Leave the sons of Bilial (Disobedience) to their fate they are already doomed with their father Satan!

    8. Oreva says:

      Thank you Emeka… I’m with you on this one!

  22. Isaac Foluso says:

    Is adultery more terrible than murder? What would Christ do in this circumstance ? Is this issue too big to lay down on our lord’s Jesus Christ feet? Where is forgiveness here ?
    The Bible is very clear on jugement, thus, nothing of such from me. I’m like a child asking QUESTIONS……,,
    May God forgive and give us Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding to cope with the complex things of this sinful WOLRD. Amen.

  23. Saviour amemga says:

    Read this book ‘God’s general’ and the scheme of the devil attacking men and women of God will not be new to you.

  24. Debs says:

    I totally agree with you. Christians are usually the ones the devil uses to bring men of God down. I have decided not to be a party to it. I’ll keep praying for them because I know soon enough, they will have a testimony. God bless you for your write up.

    1. You are right.
      But the truth remains that no man can bring a Man of God down. It’s unscriptural . It’s impossible. Unless you called yourself. But if God called you, though men may gather to eat up your flesh, they will stumble and fall.

      Can’t they get the message now? You are attacking an Man of God and he very focused about His Father’s business.

  25. Bowei says:

    You post is very accurate and awesome . God give you more wisdom.

  26. ENDURANCE says:

    THANK YOU VERY MUCH FOR THIS WRITE UP. THANK GOD WE STILL HAVE A GODLY MEDIA THAT CAN INFORM US THE CHRISTIANS. FOR ALL OF YOU WHO THINK YOU ARE PERFECT, JUST WAIT TILL THE DAY THE DEVIL WILL VISIT YOU WITH YOUR LOT. WE ARE TOO BUSY TO LISTEN TO THRASH. WE WILL FOLLOW AND BE BEHIND OUR PASTORS (PASTOR CHRIS & ANITA) COME WHAT MAY

  27. anne says:

    For God is not a God of disorder but of peace; as in all the congregations of the Saints. 1 Corinthians 14:33

    Therefore what God has joined together, let not a son of man separate. Mark 10:9

    And the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two but one flesh. Mark 10:8

    I am standing firm in supporting this marriage. Anybody can say what they want, I know God hates divorce and he said it in Malachi 2 :16

    God’s ways are not our ways.
    I was so shocked to see all the nasty things said about my Pastor and I laughed at this wicked world. The Lord asks us to rejoice all the time when we are going through diverse temptations and persecutions. I trust Jesus Christ for this matter. It is just a matter if time.

    They did the same things to Pastor Benny Hinn to destroy his marriage. Through prayer , they are back together. Satan has been defeated and put to shame. Today their ministry is as strong as a rock.

    Let them say. They go tired o o o.

  28. Andile says:

    This is powerful, how I wish all believers would see this, the way it has been revealed to you. I was once been a victim of false and fabricateed story that nearly destroyed my marriage but I thank my wife who stood by me until it was proven that this was a man made story. “Outside were those who love and practise lying.” We thank God for a blogger of your character who has such a goodly principle in the world of media that enjoys saying whatever about people. Stay blessed.

  29. Babz says:

    Hahahaha! That nigga is human afterall. Likes a little variety on the side too like the rest of us. Spare me that man of GOd crap he is a crook who got caught with his pants down. Insult me all U want Ive said my piece.

  30. mirabel says:

    Strike the Shepherd and the sheep will scatter. Pray that the wisdom God gave to some people will start working. Wisdom is a divine insight. If it starts working they will stop being carnal on issues like this. They will see beyond the physical aspect of issues like this. The demons have seen that they Ve not been able to fulfil their mission on earth the way they anticipated because of divine principalites God has poured his spirit upon and placed on strategic placed to function on the last days. This is because each time they strike we always have counsel and deliverance coming from massages,laying on of hands and programmes we attend being held by these chosen race. Testimonies abound each time we consult them. There must definitly be a way out even at the strongest challenges. Demons are not happy cos they and their activities are been expose on a daily basis by these Ministers with flaming fire. Now they felt that the best way is to start attacking those sources from which we recieve divine help so that people will now start dying in their closet with their ailments and different challenges. Why? Because they will make their spirit cold and always keep them thinking that there is no need listening or going to such people or places. Hey!!!! BE WISE! when ever u see a minister facing challenges never you capitalize on it. It is not about them is about is about you. This is the time to prove our faith not to anybody but to the one we serve. That’s why we should always pray that our faith will not fail us. That we will fulfill our ministry without reproach and non of our steps shall slide. A two fold cord cannot be easily broken. Is just a matter of time. Let’s come together and make tremendous power available. We were asked to pray without season. We cannot be distracted. One thing you should know is that is not about him is about you.Dont be distracted trying to figure things out, press forward and break every limitation. The days are evil. He will build his church and the gates of hell can never prevail. We are His church he is building us everyday and the gates of hell can never prevail. He has said it so that we can boldly say….

  31. joey says:

    Mr Emeka voiced his owned opinion but like some person said as a result of properly reading ur blog and also having Spiritual insight all we can do is fight for them on our knee in PRAYERS. Please we should be very careful how we judge Men of God cos even in their wrong His grace is still sufficient for them. You all stay BLESSED in Jesus.

  32. Kolalambano says:

    Some things re just too high for humans to discuss! If u understand who a man of God is, I bet u, u don’t wanna discuss either for or against in any issues dat involves him… It is too high 4 u! If u condemn Pastor Chris, d annointing upon his life would fight u…. Dnt even try to defend him, it is dangerous! like I said this matter is too high 4 u… The position of the Church in a matter like this is to PRAY. He that has hears, let him hear what the Spirit is saying…

  33. nana tim says:

    Hmm…God doesnt love us any less just because we have weaknesses.there is soo much pressure on men of God and their spouses having to balance their physicality and spirituality…especially when they have to ‘feed the sheep’ week after week.Even Christ condemns the sin..not the person . my only concern is they should both have been quiet about the reasons for their issues.pastor jist naturally has an amazing ability to spread like wildfire and smtimes trying to justify their decisions just make it all the worse.mistakes or not,our responsibility is to pray for mercy for them.

    1. Hey, thanks for your post. But I think we have gone beyond this SIN thing.

      The Man of God did not do any of those things written by Nigerians. It’s as simple as that.

  34. ije says:

    We are humans,so we are not infallible,I don’t care what went wrong but my prayer is that God should take care of it and resolve their problems so that they get back together

  35. A lot of ‘Christians’ wished the adultery false news was true. But they got shamed! You don’t know who a man of God is: he doesn’t mix sin and righteousness together. He doesn’t drink iniquity like water. He is set on a course by God. And if you get on his way, God has lined up consequences, on that same path.

    Be smart!

    1. Onyekachi says:

      Dear Mr McArthur OKoh, I have followed some of your postings here, and I’ll have to say that your understanding of the word, “Help Meet” is wrong. This understanding is why you’re making an imbalanced presentation of the scriptures. You believe, as Pastor Chris does, that the husband is master, and the wife must therefore, be the servant or the “Help” of the husband. This word, “Help Meet” comes from two Hebrew words: “Ezer and ‘k’enegdo”. Its meaning is not what you have described in your post. The word, “Ezer” used 21 times in scripture, means “Savior.” For example, the word “EBEN – ezer” means the Lord my Salvation – 1 Samual 7:12. ‘k’enegdo means one who possess the equal & opposite saving qualities. When these two words are merged, the paint a very different picture of the word, “Help Meet.” A wife is equal to her husband, possessing the other half opposite saving qualities and abilities to the husband. When these qualities are merged like their sex organs, it fits perfectly, making a balanced whole.
      Now, may I respectfully remind you that when God told the woman to submit, that originally, it was part of the curse of Genesis 3. Please, show me this form of submission from the beginning – before the fall. If woman was to submit to a husband by your own explanation from the beginning, why would God give to the same woman as a curse “submission” to her husband, and for her husband to rule over her? This means, that it was never a part of God’s original plan. Rulership over a woman/wife only came after the fall. My point is this: when God told the wife to submit to her husband, it was not addressed to the husband but to the wife. Isn’t Jesus the head of the church? Has he ever claimed that to you in a vision or dream? Has Jesus ever appeared to you and said, by the way, I am the head of this church? Why? Because, it is not something you say, but something you practice. We men/husbands like to remind our wives about a statement specifically addressed to them, instead of focussing on the command addressed to us – “Husbands love your wife as Christ loved the church.” You said, that a woman must submit to her husband, no matter how he behaves – then, it shows that there are other rules of marriage that you’re ignoring. The only reason why we love God is because He first loved us – 1 John 4:19. We responded to His unfailing love. Women were created to submit to love because love is what qualifies us as “Heads over our wives.” Headship is serious responsibility – the responsibility to love our wives, until, they too respond in kind. It is so sad how you all misquote the scriptures to make your ego’s feel good. Eve was created in the same class as Adam – the difference in their hierarchy is only in function, just as the “Divine Trinity.” Is not the Mighty Holy Spirit in submission to Christ? Does that make Him less God? However, the one thing I wished I could have heard from Pastor Chris in all this drama was simply, “I love my wife Anita.” Instead, all I hear is his defense and so much more of his ego – how he’s a man of God, and how everyone should pray for Anita. You don’t live apart from a wife for 16 years, and fail to breed the ground for a divorce. She is human, not a machine. The problem here is not prayers or even the devil; it is a belief-system that governs behavior, and until, it’s changed, no amount of prayer will change it. This is a ministry, where separation from one’s wife is encourage as a standard for ministry. It’s so sad….

      1. Dear Onyekachi, thank you for your detailed response. I must commend your efforts to study the word of God. Keep it up.
        However, one thing you failed to apply in your study of the Word is the guiding rule of scriptural study: in the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every truth be established. You also failed to apply contextual study of the Bible. You allowed yourself play into t

        1. David says:

          Mr Okoh, kindly stay quiet already; trust me it will help you make better submissions, if need be. Onyekachi was on point – top to bottom. from the way you defend him (Pastor Chris), it’s obvious you might even believe in him more than you do Christ – the author and finisher of our faith, for whom Pastor Chris works for. even the bible emphasizes the fact that “…our righteousness is like filthy rags; including Pastor Chris’s. Like most contributors have submitted, lets pray for both to be responsible and matured enough to let go of their selves, for once, and consider their children and many prodigies as they go about this issue. not managing it well will do much more harm to the body of Christ than it will them.

      2. Dear Onyekachi, thank you for your detailed response. I commend you for your efforts to study the Word of God. Keep it up.

        However, you failed to apply the scripture study rule: in the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every truth be established. You also failed to apply contextual study techniques which was very obvious as you tried to play the role of chief – patron of womankind. This obviously affected your study and , therefore, your submissions/conclusions.

        I have a wife and she is not our house help. Sometimes I do the dishes and also cook and also clean the house. In fact I iron her clothes because I do it better and I always want her to look cool. So quit patronizing women and stick to the word.

        You need to also note that the Holy Spirit doesn’t submit to Jesus. Infact, the Holy Spirit is His Father (Matthew 1:18). The Lord Jesus referred to the Holy Spirit as His Father that dwells in Him… So marriage is not like the Holy Trinity, please.

        There is no scripture that suggests the wife is an equal partner with her husband. Yes we all are joint heirs with Christ, but when it comes to marriage that’s not applicable in the sense you would have us believe. Also the bible didn’t instruct the woman to submit to love. She was asked to submit to her husband. Just like the husband was not asked to love a submissive wife: he was asked to love his wife, whether or not she is submissive. These things are not difficult, so stop giving any one of us some soft landing. You are not smarter than God. God would be unfair to ask a woman to submit to her husband if that was difficult.

        Again you, the scripture is full of the Word LORD, letting us know that He is the Lord. So I don’t need to see Him in a dream or vision telling me He is Lord before I know that. He already told me that severally in His Word. He is not merely acting it, He told me several times before acting it. So the wives ought to have heard these instructions many times from the Word: faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God.

        The word HELP MEET was not translated from two Hebrew words. Help is help: nothing like you help me, I help you. In fact the word meet means suitable, adapted, customised . The Word HELP is Hebrew EZER which means help, one that helps, succour, helper, aid. It was never used to refer to saviour (one who saves). The Hebrew word for saviour is YASA. Please, review your study notes ( I am very teachable; and will be willing to take your thoughts as long as you have scriptural backing for them).

        The word Ebenezer was from the Hebrew EBEN-HA – EZER, and was never used to describe God as a Saviour but as a Helper. Ebenezer means stone of help, a memorial stone used by Samuel to mark where God helped Israel defeat the Philistines. Look at it contextually from the scripture you quoted:

        1 Samuel 7:12
        Then Samuel took a stone, and set it between Mizpeh and Shen, and called the name of it Ebenezer, saying, Hitherto hath the Lord helped us.

        Did you notice that it didn’t read “… the Lord saved us”?
        “What is the difference between SAVE and HELP”, you may ask. One can be your helper without being your saviour. I can help you carry some load, thereby easing the burden, but that doesn’t mean I saved you. I just helped you.

        I am not going into the instructions for the husbands because I am yet to see any husband that has questioned them.

        2 Corinthians 13:1
        “This is the third time I am coming to you. In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.”

        I am going to give you three scriptures to back my earlier post and leave you to judge.

        1. Genesis 2:18
        “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

        I have already let you know what Help Meet means. So you may need to update your study notes.

        2. 1 Peter 3:1-6
        “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”

        3. Ephesians 5:22-24
        Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

        You should know you are not God. So you cannot expect Pastor Chris to tell you everything about his business. You are thinking too much of yourself if you expect him to tell you that he loves his own wife before you believe he does. His response was enough to clear your doubts but it is obvious you are one of those who wished the FALSE ACCUSATIONS were true, so you can run off and rejoice. Sorry that didn’t happen.

        You should also note that God didn’t promise us we won’t have domestic issues. If we do, His Word gives us the solution. That’s called TESTS AND TRIALS and no Christian is exempt. When the man of God talks to the one who called him, do you expect him to also talk to you? Does he report to you? Do you think you know better than him?This attitude baffles me. And that goes to show the level of Christian upbringing some Christians have. Very poor!

        1. Onyekachi says:

          Dear Mr. Okoh, I too applaud you for your heart for the scriptures but this will have to be my last comment on this issue. Let’s start from the beginning… In Gen. 2:22, what did Adam by revelation call the woman, after her creation? “This is NOW BONE OF MY BONE & FLESH OF MY FLESH.” The hebrew word for bone is “etsem”, and it means essence or the same genetic construction, and deals with the inside make-up of a man. But she is also flesh of his flesh – the outward make-up of the man. Merged together, the woman was created man’s exact equality – See Gen.1:27-28, and note the tenses used. The only difference between the two is clearly stipulated in their names: “She shall be called woman, as opposed to man – The hebrew words “Isha” for woman and “Ish” for man. In Gen. 2:24-25, we see God’s laws on marriage: Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother – this is called the law of priority. The marriage takes precedence over the authority once held by the parent (this does not by any means negate the honoring of father and mother). God places the priority of marriage only second to our personal relationship with God. First, let me ask you – “Which one comes first – marrige or ministry?” If a man fails to govern his household, he has no business governing the church, and that too Mr. Okoh is scripture – 1 Tim. 3:4-5. Using your logic of the wife must submit, irrespective of the husband’s behavior, then, a man nust govern his house no matter who is at fault, right? When we break this principle, we break God’s law concerning marriage. Something is of priority because of the value attached to it, when compared with other essential things. Does 16 years of living apart demonstrate this principle? Can you honestly say that ministry in Christ Embassy isn’t a clear reflection of sacrificing everything, including one’s marriage on the altar of ministry? Isn’t this behavior rampant among its core leadership? Since you claim, I took the position of a woman in my first address, instead of following scriptures, isn’t clear from your write-ups, that you’ve taken the mentality of Pastor Chris? Let’s look at the second law: “and shall cleave to his wife.” Tell me, Mr. Okoh, “What is the hebrew meaning of cleave?” It means to aggressively keep chasing after your wife. The biggest mistake we men often make is we think that once we get married, the chase stops. But let me commend you on how you relate with your wife, it seems that you two have mutual respect for each other. Pastor Anita has complained of pure negligence – this is her contention, not mine. She doesn’t feel married to him due to years of emotional, physical, mental and spiritual abandonment. She’s seen as part of a ministry material – again, her words, not mine. Unfortunately, you’ve done a great Job explaining away these real issues by talking so much more of how a woman should submit, without the man’s part. Love comes before submission, not the other way around. In-fact, submission goes both ways – Ephesians 5:21. God in Christ never demanded submission without love. Like the scripture you quoted in 1 Pet. 3:1-6, leaving out verses 7. Sincerely, I wish you the best, but remember, the master became the servant first – Phil. 2:5-9…

          1. Amore says:

            again…I like your views Onyekachi except for the part where wives a ‘equals’ to their husbands….and I am a women, lol. My husband is the coolest man I know, very calm, he cooks some times, cleans, baths our kids at times etc, but I will never allow myself to ever think that I am his equal…God forbid.

          2. Onyekachi, you have to remember we are not dealing with Pastor Chris’ s marriage here. I don’t have to get into that with you.

            What we are dealing with is what HELP MEET means. We are dealing with who the head of the wife is. We are dealing with how the husband was commanded to love his wife and how the wife was commanded to submit to her husband. So, please, stick to the subject.

            If you read my last reply from an honest heart, you’d realize what I have said is purely biblical. Mind you, I am not afraid to learn from anyone, especially once I can be shown scriptures to back up a subject matter. You have left the subject matter. Where are two or three scriptures to prove the wife is an equal partner with her husband? Where are your two or three scriptures to prove that the woman should submit if and only if she is loved by her husband? Where are your two or three scriptures to prove that the woman should only submit if she is treated well?

            You don’t have any scriptural proof. That’s why you are busy quoting scriptures about the creation of Adam and Eve. Everyone knows that. Everyone knows that Man and Woman have the same materials (flesh and bones). Even a baby born today has that composition. I thought you would have also told me that the Adam and Eve had the same breath from the Almighty which made them living beings. In fact, I thought you would have also said that since the Man and his wife are filled with the same Holy Spirit, that that makes them equal partners. Again, I say stick to the subject matter. We are not dealing with Christians and their rights in Christ: we are are equal before God, having been bought with the same price. So no Christian is more more valuable than the other in this aspect.

            But my brother, we are talking about two people who decided to get MARRIED. That’s a different ball game with its rules and regulations carefully spelt out in scripture.

            Sarah was of the same flesh and bones with Abraham but she called him lord! She didn’t call Abraham ‘ s father lord because it was only Abraham that was her lord (apart from the Lord God Himself).

            Like I said before, you need to update your study notes so they can line up with scriptures.

            I don’t expect your response since you thought it was a winner/loser debate. I took out time to write all these so others could check them out in their bibles and be established in the truth. If I was in error, the Holy Ghost will show me without wasting time.

            God bless you.

      3. Dawn says:

        Such intelligence Onyekachi…are you somehow related to King Solomon?…I’ve learned more from your comment than I’ve learned from even the blogger…kai

  36. Jennifer says:

    The bible says,”choose ye this day whom you shall serve”. If you chose God, irrespective of situations whether big or small, as Christians you only have one ministry which is “the ministry of reconciliation”. Does it matter what went wrong, does it matter who is right or what is said afterwards. In the case of the adulterous woman, noticed what Jesus did. He first of all put a stop in the chaos and confusion before He spoke any one who has not committed any sin to cast the first stone. The strike of the enemy is simply to create chaos or confusion. Those who like confusion or chaos will choose either… but thank God for some of us who are with Christ and think like Him for just one purpose, “the ministry of reconciliation “. Hallelujah! In this matter, I do not judge but pray as the spirit leads. Emeka, remember one thing if you have your bible, learn to study the logos and apply them. Do not be the one that will be tossed to and fro. One thing is sure. “We are overcomers in this life”. My sister, thank you for this write up and I am with you, God bless you richly.

  37. OBB says:

    God bless you for this great piece. I am strongly of the opinion that beside the fact that we do not have the right to be judgmental of others and make sensation with their pains, I also strongly posit that we ought to relate with others’ mistakes with the consciousness of our own weaknesses and vulnerability. I advocate strategic intercession for Pastor, his family and every believer especially those in ecclesiastical leadership who are facing their peculiar challenges. More grace and God bless.

  38. ayodele says:

    Peace God bless nd Keep you and your Family! It is well, the church of God will march on and the gates of hell shall not Prevail! Love you all

  39. Ehigie Efosa says:

    Efosa

    Wow am so glad a reporter could write this God bless u ma, 4 writing d true.

  40. RIChard says:

    Pastor Chris is truly of God…and has never lost focus doing the fathers business all these notwithstanding. am seriously with you on this mam. The Bible has answer to all situations. No wonder the Bible admonished us to PRAY FOR OUR PASTORS. If anything has gone with Pastor Chris and Rev Anita, it’s our faults as Christians cos we have failed to pray.lets all embrace that responsibility now. PLEASE PRAY FOR YOUR PASTORS ..

  41. James Itepu says:

    Let us pray for pastor Chris, don’t let a wounded soldier die. Thank.

  42. Peter says:

    Read the Bible:

    Numbers 12 New International Version (NIV)
    Miriam and Aaron Oppose Moses

    12 Miriam and Aaron began to talk against Moses because of his Cushite wife, for he had married a Cushite. 2 “Has the Lord spoken only through Moses?” they asked. “Hasn’t he also spoken through us?” And the Lord heard this.

    3 (Now Moses was a very humble man, more humble than anyone else on the face of the earth.)

    4 At once the Lord said to Moses, Aaron and Miriam, “Come out to the tent of meeting, all three of you.” So the three of them went out. 5 Then the Lord came down in a pillar of cloud; he stood at the entrance to the tent and summoned Aaron and Miriam. When the two of them stepped forward, 6 he said, “Listen to my words:

    “When there is a prophet among you,
    I, the Lord, reveal myself to them in visions,
    I speak to them in dreams.
    7 But this is not true of my servant Moses;
    he is faithful in all my house.
    8 With him I speak face to face,
    clearly and not in riddles;
    he sees the form of the Lord.
    Why then were you not afraid
    to speak against my servant Moses?”

    9 The anger of the Lord burned against them, and he left them.

    10 When the cloud lifted from above the tent, Miriam’s skin was leprous[a]—it became as white as snow. Aaron turned toward her and saw that she had a defiling skin disease, 11 and he said to Moses, “Please, my lord, I ask you not to hold against us the sin we have so foolishly committed. 12 Do not let her be like a stillborn infant coming from its mother’s womb with its flesh half eaten away.”

    13 So Moses cried out to the Lord, “Please, God, heal her!”

    14 The Lord replied to Moses, “If her father had spit in her face, would she not have been in disgrace for seven days? Confine her outside the camp for seven days; after that she can be brought back.” 15 So Miriam was confined outside the camp for seven days, and the people did not move on till she was brought back.

    16 After that, the people left Hazeroth and encamped in the Desert of Paran.

  43. laviv says:

    Thank you for daring to be different. It only takes a woman of great wisdom and understanding to write and talk like this.

  44. princess says:

    all of u saying nonsense about dis isuess who are u 2 render ur judgement on him is any of u perfect which one if us has not sin and come short of d glory of god,if after wot david in bible did and GOd still call him d man after my heart so who are u 2 open ur mouth and ultar a word all of ur talking av u not 4 once cheated on ur girlfrnd or wife no answer me better watch ur words so u dont bring condemination upoon ur self b bible says judge not so u may not b judge. all dat counts and how he relates wit him GOD finish

  45. Godspower says:

    An enemy hath done this.Matthew 13:28.be careful what u say.God is watching every idol words that any 1 speaks.after a church like Christ Embassy hard grow rapidly all over the world and now de devil come out with his orgley hand to destroyed what God have joined together.one’s again wach ur word every that commet on this mater of papa chris and his wife.my asment is to pray them.I no at de end things will be ok.

  46. When your neighbors house is on fire it is time you start watching your own house and stop getting yourself unnecessarily worried over your neighbors house than your own. It can happen to you, learn and stop this itching mouth syndrome.

  47. vooke says:

    There is an unholy fear amongst Evangelicals in criticizing or even pointing out wrongs especially among leadership.
    The theory is ‘touch on mine anointed’ means you can incur the wrath of God for raising your voice. This is why so much rot is tolerated in churches. I recall Jehovah’s Witness invoking the scripture on settling disputes amongst Christians without litigation to dissuade a parent of a sexual defilement victim from reporting. it is that bad

    What this effectively does is to give ministers a blank moral cheque and to castigate any form of dissent. The sheep that peter was left feeding are supposed to be dumb and deaf. At best they should be praying and fasting…anything but not speaking against sin in the leadership. We have seen TB Joshua’s building taking out over 80 and all we are being aksd to do is pray for the man of God. That’s nonsense. Buildings don’t collapse 50 minutes after aircrafts overflies them. This was shoddy workmanship that cost those lives.

    Back to Oyakhilome. My opinion on marital issues is to never speak before I hear both sides. We have been treated to outright denial of the news by members of CEC to curses for just aksing what’s going on. Contents of the divorce petition are coming out. So we have a vague idea of what’s going on.

    Nobody wakes up one day and walks away from a marriage. They had issues that went on unresolved for years. But believers especially the evangelical variety are professionals at image management. I recall listening to Juanita Bynum talking about her former husband Wesley Weeks and how thir sex life was a thriller. This was before giving her sermon back in 2007. A few weeks/days later, reports of her battery surfaced. Next, YouTube videos. And of course divorce. I think Christians especially leaders are trying too hard to impress with with the externals; how their finances are in order (they are in debt),how their kids are excelling (not necessarily), how they love their spouses- PDA (in reality they are struggling), and how they really know spiritual warfare. It’s all showbiz and ultimately the rot starts stinking. This is what Oyakhilome is going through.

    You can and may be you should pray for them but the show is clearly over for them

  48. Emmanuel Ogbonna says:

    You know some people actually wished that it should be true that pastor Chris committed adultery but thank God we have people like you who are really sound Christians. May God raise more people like you

    1. Dear Emmanuel Ogbonna, this is very true. Even when the Man of God has said those accusations were false, they are not satisfied. They are looking for other things to blame him for.

      And these are supposed to be Christians. It just shows lack of proper Christian upbringing.

  49. NWACHIYELUBA TOCHUKWU says:

    @Peace i am fully in agreement with you,lets not loose focus cos where ever the children of GOD are gathering the children of the devil show up too.

  50. nne says:

    God we see them through in their Marriage and also their ministries. they need pray on this ensure. God we instituted any problem they have. it just believe on this word. that is my own piece of word. thanks all.

  51. Onyekachi says:

    This is an article that best explains the “True Meaning” of “Help Meet.”
    One of the most frequently misunderstood terms in the bible is the term “help meet” in the book of Genesis. In Genesis 2:18 it says, “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

    The common way in which the term “help meet” is interpreted is to mean that God gave Adam a helper who was worthy of him. Eve, unlike the other beasts of the earth, was “appropriate for” or “worthy of him”. This understanding of the term “help meet”is not really correct. The term, in it’s original Hebrew, means something much more profound and powerful. When we really understand what God was saying to Adam we come to see Eve’s role and the role of women on this earth in a much different light.

    In Hebrew the two words that “help meet” are derived from are the words “ezer” and the word ‘k’enegdo”.
    Ezer which is commonly translated as “help” is really a rich word with a much deeper meaning. In her book Eve and the Choice Made in Eden, Beverly Campbell explains,
    “According to biblical scholar David Freedman, the Hebrew word translated thee into English as “help” is ezer. This word is a combination of two roots, one meaning “to rescue”, “to save,” and the other meaning “to be strong.” Just as the roots merged into one word, so did their meanings. At first ezer meant either “to save” or “to be strong,” but in time, said Freedman, ezer “ was always interpreted as ‘to help’ a mixture of both nuances.”
    Diana Webb in her book Forgotten Women of God also clarifies this word by explaining,
    “The noun ezer occurs 21 times in the Hebrew Bible. In eight of these instances the word means “savior”. These examples are easy to identify because they are associated with other expressions of deliverance or saving. Elsewhere in the Bible, the root ezer means “strength…. the word is most frequently used to describe how God is an ezer to man. ”
    For example the word “ebenezer” in 1 Samuel 7:12 is used to describe the power of God’s deliverance. “Eben” means rock and “ezer” means “help” or “salvation”. Ebenezer therefore means “rock of help” or “rock of salvation”. The root “ezer” is the same word that God used to describe to Adam who Eve was. She was not intended to be just his helper or his companion, rather she was intended to be his savior, his deliverer.

    The other part of the term “help meet” which is commonly translated as “meet for” or “fit for” is the word “k’enegdo”. It is hard to know exactly what the word k’enegdo means because it only appears once in the entire Bible. Yet Diana Webb explained that,
    “Neged, a related word which means “against”, was one of the first words I learned in Hebrew. I thought it was very strange that God would create a companion for Adam that was “against” him! Later, I learned that kenegdo could also mean “in front of” or “opposite.” This still didn’t help much. Finally I heard it explained as being “exactly corresponding to,” like when you look at yourself in a mirror.”
    Eve was not designed to be exactly like Adam. She was designed to be his mirror opposite, possessing the other half of the qualities, responsibilities, and attributes which he lacked. Just like Adam and Eve’s sexual organs were physically mirror opposites (one being internal and the other external) so were their their divine stewardship designed to be opposite but fit together perfectly to create life. Eve was Adam’s complete spiritual equal, endowed with a saving power that was opposite from his.

    I’ve pondered a lot about this clarification of Eve’s role and how it is that she has been given a saving power equal but opposite to Adam’s saving power. As I’ve thought about it I realized that while women do much to help and assist men in their stewardship they have been given a stewardship that is uniquely theirs and which is every bit as important as men’s stewardship.

    Women are “saviors” to men by the fact that they give them life and nurture them towards the light of Christ. By conceiving, creating and bearing mortal bodies women make it possible for God’s children to start on their mortal journey and have the opportunity to become perfected. Without women there would be no gateway into this world and no opportunity for progress or exaltation. In addition, by being willing to sacrifice ( their very lives if necessary) to bring children into this world women demonstrate the true meaning of charity. From the very first breath a child takes he or she has been the recipient of charity and unconditional love. This is a powerful gift that a mother gives her child and it will be her love which will first reminded the child of God and points him or her towards Christ. Each woman, regardless of her ability to give birth, is a savior to mankind when she loves men and nurtures a child closer to Christ. (I’ve mentioned more about this concept in my post The Importance of Birth and Infertility and the Scriptural Promise).

    Even Adam, whose physical body was not created by a daughter of Eve, was saved and delivered by a woman. For it was through a woman, Mary, that Jesus Christ came to conquer the bonds of death and sin and atoned for Adam’s transgression. Without a woman to bear the body of Christ mankind would have been lost and fallen forever and Adam’s work and purpose on the earth would have been meaningless. Mary was the gateway that made Christ’s work possible and her nurturing the catalyst for his success. Even though Eve didn’t give physical life to Adam she literally saved him from spiritual death by opening the way for the Savior and Redeemer to come into the world. Salvation, in the form of Christ, literally came to the earth through a woman.

    This perspective on Eve is so powerful for me. It is so different from what we normally hear about her and about women’s roles in the world. I love what Beverly Campbell concluded her remarks about the term “help meet” with. She said,
    “Thus, it seems that through imprecise translation, our understanding of the powerful words used originally to describe Eve’s role have been diminished. As a result, our understanding or Mother Eve has also been diminished. Suppose we had all, male and female alike, been taught to understand Genesis 2:18 as something like the following, “It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a companion of strength and power who has a saving power and is equal with him.””
    I know that understanding the real meaning of the term “help meet” earlier in my life would have made a huge difference in how I understood my role and mission as a woman. I realize now that true power come when men and women realize that they have been blessed with different gifts, abilities and stewardship’s and truly work together as equal partners to help each other be successful. The basic truth is that men and women need each other and it is only when they are united, body, soul and mind, that God’s work moves forth. We are nothing without each other and nothing without Christ.

    “It is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a companion of strength and power who has a saving power and is equal with him.”

    How different our world would be if men and women really understood that!

    1. Amore says:

      Your post is interesting . Where does the ‘equal with him’ come in though in the bible? That is what I completely disagree with….if we were equals than Sarah would not have called her husband Abraham (whom God considered his friend) ‘master’. In her calling him master is evident that a husband and his wife are not equals and I think believing that will be the first step to a failed marriage,

      1. Amore says:

        my reply was addressed to Onyeka by the way. Thanks.

        1. Amore says:

          Onyekachi sorry…I am Spanish so struggling a little with the names.

      2. Amore, thank you for this. Onyekachi got his notes from an article and didn’t bother to check what the bible teaches.

  52. Onyeka says:

    No one Should Judge… I really haven’t followed their story, but i believe everyone should clean up their mess and pray fervently. No marriage is perfect

    1. Amore says:

      very true Onyeka.

  53. Tunde says:

    The bottom line is where will you be when the trumpet sounds!!! God seeks true worshippers and not church affiliates. And as the Jesus said on a similar issue “let him who is without sin cast the first stone”. (Note Jesus didn’t use the word Adultery or furnication but sin). God bless us all.

  54. Can we just stop and pray? Is there anything too much for the Lord, NO!!! then lets pray for the Oyakhilomes. It is well with their marriage. The devil has failed again.

  55. I am with you on this. Well said and spoken . God bless you .

  56. Dear Onyekachi, thank you for your detailed response. I commend you for your efforts to study the Word of God. Keep it up.

    However, you failed to apply the scripture study rule: in the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every truth be established. You also failed to apply contextual study techniques which was very obvious as you tried to play the role of chief – patron of womankind. This obviously affected your study and , therefore, your submissions/conclusions.

    I have a wife and she is not our house help. Sometimes I do the dishes and also cook and also clean the house. In fact I iron her clothes because I do it better and I always want her to look cool. So quit patronizing women and stick to the word.

    You need to also note that the Holy Spirit doesn’t submit to Jesus. Infact, the Holy Spirit is His Father (Matthew 1:18). The Lord Jesus referred to the Holy Spirit as His Father that dwells in Him… So marriage is not like the Holy Trinity, please.

    There is no scripture that suggests the wife is an equal partner with her husband. Yes we all are joint heirs with Christ, but when it comes to marriage that’s not applicable in the sense you would have us believe. Also the bible didn’t instruct the woman to submit to love. She was asked to submit to her husband. Just like the husband was not asked to love a submissive wife: he was asked to love his wife, whether or not she is submissive. These things are not difficult, so stop giving any one of us some soft landing. You are not smarter than God. God would be unfair to ask a woman to submit to her husband if that was difficult.

    The word HELP MEET was not translated from two Hebrew words. Help is help: nothing like you help me, as help you. In fact the word meet means suitable, adapted, customised . The Word HELP is Hebrew EZER which means help, one that helps, succour, helper, aid. It was never used to refer to saviour (one who saves). The Hebrew word for saviour is YASA. Please, review your study notes ( I am very teachable; and will be willing to take your thoughts as long as you have scriptural backing for them).

    The word Ebenezer was from the Hebrew EBEN-HA – EZER, and was never used to describe God as a Saviour but as a Helper. Ebenezer means stone of help, a memorial stone used by Samuel to mark where God helper Israel defeat the Philistines. Look at it contextually from the scripture you quoted:

    1 Samuel 7:12
    Then Samuel took a stone, and set it between Mizpeh and Shen, and called the name of it Ebenezer, saying, Hitherto hath the Lord helped us.

    Did you notice that it didn’t read “… the Lord saved us”?
    “What is the difference between SAVE and HELP”, you may ask. One can be your helper without being your saviour. I can help you carry some load, thereby easing the burden, but that doesn’t mean I saved you. I just helped you.

    I am not going into the instructions for the husbands because I am yet to see any husband that has questioned them.

    2 Corinthians 13:1
    “This is the third time I am coming to you. In the mouth of two or three witnesses shall every word be established.”

    I am going to give you three scriptures to back my earlier post and leave you to judge.

    1. Genesis 2:18
    “And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”

    I have already let you know what Help Meet means. So you may need to update your study notes.

    2. 1 Peter 3:1-6
    “Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear. Whose adorning let it not be that outward adorning of plaiting the hair, and of wearing of gold, or of putting on of apparel; But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price. For after this manner in the old time the holy women also, who trusted in God, adorned themselves, being in subjection unto their own husbands:Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord:whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”

    3. Ephesians 5:22-24
    Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:and he is the saviour of the body. Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.”

  57. Sharon says:

    May God bless u for this write up my sis. Pastor Chris is God’s General and nothing satan can do about it. God will heal his marriage . Even with marriage crash Mike Murdock is still God’s General. We have no right to judge d anointed man of God. Christians pray.

  58. Kieghe evelyn says:

    I agree they both need our prayers! Even if pastor chris thinks he does not need d prayers hence asking us to pray 4 pastor anita. God will show them both mercy and heal.

  59. gistmovies says:

    Hmmm, the matter hard but there is God. I am still writing an article on this matter but I want to first finish with my investigations and understand spiritual codes.
    But wait ooo, is Pastor Chris and Anita not human? Lets stop confusing ourselves, as bad as David God blessed him, as bad as Solomon God blessed him, as wicked as Paul God used him. Even when he cried about his flesh in the bible, God never left him. Brethren we are Christians and we are members of particular congregation. If you cannot pray for Pastor Chris, when it gets to you, you will be so surprised. Wetin una dey talk self, even Jesus was tempted. Please all the over sabis make una go read una bible well and understand am. Pray for restoration in the family cycle not only for pastor Chris, but for Nigeria and Christiandom because if we continue like this, Iraq will be a better place when Nigeria is called.

  60. Chuks says:

    Jesus said, not all that call me Lord, Lord that will enter the kingdom of God but those who do the will of my Father who is in heaven. Apostle Paul also wrote that in the last days men will not endure sound doctrine but shall gather unto themselves teachers teaching them what their itching ears want to hear.

  61. Ebuka says:

    My opinion is that Madam Peace’ write up is great but her replies are terrible. Shows she’s an immature blogger who can’t deal with differing opinions. Mac Arthur is struggling to launder image when he’s not married to any of the Pastors. Let him just pray if he wants.
    As for me, I won’t bother to investigate the matter because I’m not interested in gloating. Anyone can make mistakes even men/women of God. The sooner we understand that the better.
    While you guys are praying, remember to pray for yours too.

    1. Ebuka, how can I launder an image that is hid in Christ? The image is intact, so deal with it.

      You are the ones who are struggling to maintain your lies. You rejoiced in a lie and have refused to accept the truth because the truth doesn’t serve your purpose.

      Have you not seen that your opinion doesn’t count. The Man of God remains focused having been set in course by God. And remember he doesn’t owe you any explanations. And he doesn’t have to tell Ebuka what he is doing about his challenges, which in fact always produces an eternal weight of glory.

      I advise you face your life and let God build it. And when you see a success, recognize it. Don’t criticize what you want!

      God bless you.

    2. Peace says:

      Hi Ebuka, every comment on my blog ALWAYS await approval before it can be seen by the public. An immature blogger would delete any comment which tend to oppose their views, straight from the admin dashboard because they can’t handle ” differing opinions”.

      But a mature blogger would approve every comment; whether positive or negative for the public to see and have a view. Every commenter’s perspective is well respected on this forum. Without Ngo’s comment, Mr. McArthur Okoh may not have responded with his educative perspective and Mr. Onyekachi’s counter response wouldn’t have blessed so many.

      It may look like immaturity to you, but I’ve been experienced enough to know that some of the greatest ideas and inventions were birthed through negativity and adversity. Most agreements started with disagreements.

      Attack me if you wish, but I’m not one to shy away from arguments. Anyone who uses the average Nigerian blogging standard to judge mine may be disappointed. Other bloggers post stories and leave the readers to make both relevant/irrelevant comments…sometimes coming for each other’s throats. At the end of the day, you wonder how that story/comments added value to your life but have no answer.

      I’m only trying to change the game and I shall never be ashamed to say ‘I’m sorry’ if I’m wrong. Thanks for visiting my blog.

  62. Joanna Somaa says:

    I appreciate women who are objective and are not swayed by the worlds urge to be feministic about everything… You have spoken well and im now subscribed to your blog for life.

  63. dedrkuma Julius says:

    good communication

  64. Amore says:

    I love this article, thank you sister Peace. I have this urge to pray for Pastor Chris and Anita and also for the marriages of all the men of God and their wives right now! i am logging out to pray now. God bless you all!

  65. thank you peace for the write up , really inspiring. this man is the reason i found jesus and a pastor today. i won;t stop praying . thank you once more

  66. tosin says:

    Is pastor chris asking for anybodys spiritual interferance ? I once read from a blog that pasor Chris sacked one of his pastor who organised a prayer section over this issue of divorce, and I will believe its true cos in all his sermon of lately ive not heard where he requested or plead for d congression to join him in prayers or pray for his family. So u pple should leave him alone to handle is matrimonial issue as a demigod or as a husband cos christians in asian countries and northern part of nigeeia are being persecuted, thy need our prayers.

  67. tosin says:

    Is pastor chris asking for anybodys spiritual interferance ? I once read from a blog that pasor Chris sacked one of his pastor who organised a prayer section over this issue of divorce, and I will believe its true cos in all his sermon of lately ive not heard where he requested or plead for d congression to join him in prayers or pray for his family. So u pple should leave him alone to handle is matrimonial issue as a demigod or as a husband cos christians in arabian countries and northern part of nigeria are being persecuted, they need our prayers.REPLY

  68. Lorie says:

    we christians like airing each others dirty linens for others to see. Where have you seen muslims talking about their imams atrocities? but trust me they have theirs and so do Budhists and other religions. why cant we all just mind our business? If they want a divorce it is between them and God. I agree with what you said that we should stop spreading the story. By the way im not even a member of C.E and never will be but i really feel bad about this gist going around. lets respect their privacy

  69. pavilon2 says:

    tosin, greetings to you. It is high time you stop believing what the tabloids tell you, has any member of the church in UK said anything about such, why believe a rumour completely distorted from the truth. Pastor Chris has many times said that we should learn to pray for the families of ministers of the gospel all around the world, it is not new to us, challenging times is a stepping stone to victory, if his children are not moved to complain and take sides, why should the world be, only the Word of God brings total comfort and peace beyond measures, no matter the fiery darts the devil throws at us, the bible has said that we should not be afraid because we have overcome. The church is getting stronger and increasing in grace day by day until the coming of Our Lord Jesus.

  70. ceewai says:

    I’m so jealous of Pst Chris, his family and congregation once again. After the rain comes shining. Satan has fallen again and will fall many more times. They shall come out even stronger and their ministry expand even more. As many as are rejoicing over whatever is happening to them shall hide their faces in shame soonest.

  71. greis says:

    Hmmmm…true…

  72. lewis anabillah smith says:

    This is not the time to prove who is right or wrong bt I call all men and women to rise up and hold the horns of the altar in intercession for this great family for the devil is seriously crusading against christian marriages.it is my heart desire that God will restore this marital union in jesus name.

  73. Tony Zoe Charles says:

    I think most people who have been commenting on the issue do not have any facts , but have somehow found an opportunity to air their personal opinions or rather hear say , ” they said ” . The funny truth about the situation is that it affords the opportunity to understand the mindset of the people ” Christians and non Christians ” , also a very big lesson for everyone considering the personalities involved . I have perceived Hatred , disdain , love and sheer callousness from the comments of thousands who have commented on the issue on several different platforms . Let us all be wise , there are certain things that are not relevant to our individual purpose . Especially when we do not have facts . The truth will always be the truth , And until this day most people who have taken out time to write lengthy comments , articles about the couple either in support or condemnation do not actually know what happened or what is happening . All i can contribute as a christian is ” Pro_24:7 Wisdom is too high for a fool: he openeth not his mouth in the gate. ” . As Christians how can we even begin to condescend to the level of arguing or exchanging words with blind and uninformed souls , when we know from scriptures that persecutions and trials are very vital for progress even citing the master himself ” Mark 15:14 Then Pilate said unto them, Why, what evil hath he done? And they cried out the more exceedingly, Crucify him.” . This situation is a proof of Pastor Chris’s promotion and fulfillment of the prophecy by the spirit of God ” The year of greatness “. As many that are condemning him as the people of the old persecuted Jesus are only tools of magnification and for this we his supporters , members , brethren , children say a very big thank you .

  74. Bibo says:

    I am so with you on this and I must commend you, reading your blog for the first time and it’s like inhaling clean air. It’s so nice to see a blog so different from the norms and so right. Hope to read more of you.

  75. Lady T says:

    Well written Madam Peace, I do agree with you on some points and in no way should we come to conclusion on issues regarding marriage. I do relate with you cos my own marriage suffered a hit too for some time and my husband & I were separated. Thank God for good christian brothers and sisters that formed a group only to pray for us and to think they were not even on my top list of friends then. At this point, we can go on and on agreeing and disagreeing with Pastor Chris message on marriage but I believe it’s a waste of time what they both need and desperately need is PRAYERS. Whether adultery was involved or not, does not matter any longer and both couples would see things from their point of view. Sisiter and brothers, I don’t think I care right now who is doing it right or wrong then to lift them up in prayers that the same GOD that solved Benny hinn marriage will also DO IT AGAIN. Amen

  76. Indeed. I’ve read the article and that’s just how it was… It’s Satan’s deceit to attack the church or God… Attacking the great men of God to stain the church. We are not to dispel these rumors.. I like your opinion, We are to pray about them. Plsss.

  77. Jeremy Lewis says:

    Can’t read all your comments but what i ahve to say People…
    PLEASE, OPEN YOUR EYES!!! Pastor Chris and his wife have been living a lie for years, putting up a front. He is an adulterer and one of his mistresses is Pastor Ify (well,,, so we hear). Pastor Anita can’t bear the shame anymore and has to leave for the sake of her sanity. And bottom line, that man is an occultist and definitely not of God!

  78. kingsley says:

    You really indeed a child of God and a follower of the word of God as a christian should.I was indeed blessed and inspired and wondered if other bloggers and medias can think the way God wants us to think they wont talk all the rubbish they publish on the internet allowing themselves to be used of the devil anyway thats not a factor because i know with prayers God will make all things perfect for my Pastor.Peace i am just getting to know your blog for the first time today and with this humour of yours am sure one of your fans now.thanks once again keep winning!

    1. Peace says:

      Thanks a lot, Kingsley. Welcome on board!

  79. Peter says:

    Seriously, first i want to commend your point of view. thanks. secondly i have taken time to read most of the response. For those opposing your view and those calling Pastor Chris names, i want them to reflect for a moment. If Pastor Chris was not a Pastor the issue would not have come up at all. So the attack is not about Pastor Chris but what he represents (Christianity) and if it is so Christians ought to band together and fight. But that they dont is also expected because of what the bible calls self righteousness.

    But i have a scripture for them “Who are you to pass judgement on the servant of another? It is before his master that he stands or falls. And he will be upheld, for the Lord is able to make him stand”.
    thanks.

  80. Efosa Aigbe says:

    I am with you all the way. Let call heaven to intercede in this matter. Facing turbulence in my relationship too and this piece puts everything in perspective.

  81. kls says:

    I am not seen that strange video but just googled about it for two years in order to understand ce and ps chris and anita.
    What i have read about lecture he did in may it was way too much. I believe that female and man are equal partner in their marriage and that female have not only house slave and make all house works.i believe that female have right to their career and work and to their ministry too in body of christ and deserve proper acknowledgement when they serve together with their husband which unfornately i have not seen that ps chris had done to his wife. Ps Chris had said that ce is mine but what his wife did truly those 16 years in uk? Builded up the ministry and when day was right ps chris came and took it over like his own.
    In europe in my country there is special law when ppl get married they write down their treasures they own before marriage and how it is shared what is made during the marriage. This thing should have done between them too.

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