Wunmi Obe recently came under bashing for slamming Robin Williams‘ widow, Susan Schneider.
On Monday August 11, the world lost one of the most talented artists the world had ever seen. Robin Williams died from committing suicide with a belt and left a huge vacuum in our hearts. He was said to be depressed at the time.
A further probe into his private life revealed that he was broke, after paying heavily for two divorce settlements from his two previous marriages. His ongoing TV show, had also been cancelled, while he was sleeping in separate bedrooms with his present wife, Schneider. And they been married for just three years.
There were also reports that Robin’s wife, woke up that morning of August 11, got dressed, did her hair and make-up, then went out on errands around 10:30 AM, all while her husband was hanging from his belt after committing suicide sometime after 10:30 PM the night before.
She didn’t check on her husband before leaving the house, neither did she say ‘good morning’ or ‘goodbye.’ It took the legendary actor’s assistant who was worried that Williams didn’t answer the door, to discover the body. Robin’s wife later made a public statement, saying:
“This morning, I lost my husband and my best friend, while the world lost one of its most beloved artists and beautiful human beings. I am utterly heartbroken. On behalf of Robin’s family, we are asking for privacy during our time of profound grief,”
As he is remembered, it is our hope the focus will not be on Robin’s death, but on the countless moments of joy and laughter he gave to millions.”
Notice I highlighted ‘my husband and my best friend’? Yes. Wunmi wasn’t the only one who found that statement awkward. I did too. Wunmi said…
From her tweets you can clearly see that Wunmi reacted based on THE SUICIDE SCENARIO, and those key words…HUSBAND-BEST FRIEND. You must agree it didn’t look pretty. Husband dies since 10:30pm, wife leaves house the following morning at 10:30am and didn’t know her husband was dead??? Na so dem dey marry?
Most American blogs and media also felt Schneider’s statement was not convincing enough. Celeb Dirty Laundry wrote:
“Not only does the scenario make very clear that Robin and Susan were having marital issues, but it also paints her as a very cold woman.
Not only did she not feel a need to say or kiss her husband goodbye, she didn’t have the fore thought to even check on him before leaving, knowing of his fragile mental state. I mean, the two lived in the same house.
Most people would not only check on their spouse before leaving someone with severe depression alone, they would check on a friend, a roommate, etc.”
Wunmi was called all sorts of unprintable names for daring to speak her mind. She was criticized for using dirty language and called an evil madam who will not let widows mourn in peace. The truth is, we all loved Robin. Everyone expressed pain and anger at his death in different ways. Wunmi wasn’t an exception. Wunmi also has been married for 16 years so she has a lot of experience in this field. She knows what goes down in marriage. I believe if she had a fight with her husband and had to sleep in a separate bedroom, she’d sleep with one ear wide open. We all pull the sleeping-in-the-kids bedroom stunt once in a while after a bitter quarrel, but all na forming levels. Not to mention leaving a depressed husband all by himself.
As an African woman in an African marriage, I see so many things wrong with this scenario. But my observations may not be relevant seeing that it’s an oyibo marriage.
Many blog commenters have given different reasons why couples sleep in separate bedrooms. I’m not one to dictate what every couple must do in their marriage. Some women said it adds spark to their marriage, others said their mistress bedroom was for storing their plenty clothes and fashion accessories.
In the case of Robin and his wife, the man was depressed. Depression is a serious disease. Sufferers shouldn’t be left on their own. I know Robin would have been alive today, if certain things were handled differently.
As we mourn him, let’s take with us this lesson. Love your spouse and be a friend. Show love and care for the people around you. It might just go a long way to make a difference in somebody’s life.
Rest in peace Robin Williams. My condolences to his wife and family.